Writing a eulogy for your loved one is a daunting task. How can we sum up the life and the impact someone has had on us in just a few minutes?
Eulogies are about paying your respects in a beautiful and public way, so it is important to come up with a way to say what’s in your heart. You can do this by recounting stories and recalling memories in valuable, creative and meaningful ways.
When a death occurs, it is sometimes hard to focus your mind in a way that will produce the words needed. If you need a bit of direction, the caring staff at Hetherington Funerals can assist you as part of our funeral planning service. Here are some tips about eulogies to get your started.
Start with the Facts
Emotion tends to overwhelm in times like these. A good way to get started is to do your research about the deceased. Gather the core information, including where and when they were born, names of relatives, career or life achievements, date of marriage, etc. Think about the qualities that the deceased was known for and write them down.
Come Up with Anecdotes
A good way to remember the qualities that a person had in life is to show them through examples. This is a great place to add a touch of humour if appropriate. For example, if a father was known for his light-heartedness and love of music, perhaps a story about how he used to play his records for the family every Sunday night and dance with his wife around the lounge room would be a good way to portray that.
This is all brainstorming time. Just jot down a few anecdotes and ideas that really show the deceased’s character.
Write an Introduction
A good way to get started is to begin with a sort of template. Acknowledge why everyone is gathered and then introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the deceased. Then thank the guests for attending and perhaps make special mention of anyone who has travelled from far away. This typical type of opening will help centre you and bring you to the rest of your story.
Include Biographical Information
After the introduction, a good transition into the life of the deceased would be a short biography that gives the guests information about the deceased. Use the information you collected in Step 1. This is when you can begin to discuss their qualities.
Once you have given enough background information, it’s time to choose some of the anecdotes or special stories that you brainstormed about in Step 2. You can also discuss any life achievements, hobbies, passions, etc. Insert some gentle humour if appropriate.
Close with Words of Comfort
When ending your eulogy, think of how the deceased impacted you or other guests, and what lessons he or she may have imparted. Close your eulogy by saying goodbye to the deceased.
Proofread and Practice
You don’t want to disrespect the memory of your loved one by blundering through a eulogy full of mistakes. Make sure you take the time to proofread and to practice reading your eulogy aloud.
At Hetherington Funerals in Perth, we are here to help in any way that we can. Contact us today to enlist our funeral planning service.