A Eulogy is a beautifully written piece, often spoken by loved ones to praise and remember someone who has passed.

For many, it is an honour to write and speak this piece at a funeral service. It is no easy task to capture the feelings and stories of your loved one, made harder by the emotional nature of speaking in public and saying goodbye.

Given this is an emotional task, the best advice is to be well prepared and well-practised.

Gather Stories

 A nice way to bring everyone together, while also relieving some pressure from yourself, is to ask close family and friends for some input. Ask them their favourite stories of your deceased loved one and how they would communicate the life of this person. This is a therapeutic exercise, as well as helpful for you to remember stories and build a repertoire of memories that you could potentially discuss.

Decide on the Tone

Before putting pen to paper, think of the tone you want for the eulogy. Perhaps consider the circumstances around the death. If the deceased had died young, the tone could speak to the untimely nature of their death. If you are speaking about an elderly loved one who lived a long and happy life, then the tone may be more celebratory of all they have accomplished and experienced.

Structuring the Eulogy

With so many memories coming up as well as the added emotion of grief, it is often difficult to structure what you want to say in a way that connects with your audience and communicates the message you want to get across.

Consider the following:

Introduce yourself – Not everyone at the service may know you. It is best to give context, introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased.

Speak about the deceased – While it is certain that everyone there knows the deceased, it is worth introducing them, who they were in your eyes and the eyes of their family and friends. This will help your audience to connect with you, in that you each share this same insight into the deceased.

Share personal stories that are a testament to their character – using the stories that you gathered from other loved ones, tell a few stories that share similar themes. For example, if the deceased loved to make pranks you could tell a few stories of these pranks that yourself and other family and friends experienced.

Closing – the closing sentences of your eulogy should reiterate what the deceased meant to you and everything attending the service, along with closing words to say goodbye.


Writing notes and practising many times is the key to surviving the delivery of the eulogy. If you know the piece almost by heart, you will be better equipped to comfortably and concisely deliver your message.

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